If you don’t know what you are looking for, anything can be what you want
Since my family moved to the suburbs over two years ago, we drive averagely half an hour every Sunday morning along country lanes to attend church services. I was amused to discover some new things along the route recently that I did not notice in the last two years. It is not because they were not there all along, I just didn’t notice them. Because of my inquisitive mind, I thought I was aware of everything along that route. Discovering something ‘new’ was a big lesson for me – we mostly see what we focus on. The other side of the coin is, what we look at is not necessarily what we see. There are other factors that influence the interpretation of what we see. You can read more on this concept here.
Thoughts can be very consuming, and the dominating one drives our concentration, focus, and actions. Can you imagine your daily thinking filled with positive thoughts about yourself and your future? Zooming in on thoughts that translate to what you would like to see in your life will ignite your eye’s laser focus figuratively and literally. For the past three months, I have encouraged a particular thought (that translates to what we would like to see as a family) and it is unbelievable how I can identify the potentials around; to be honest, I am totally consumed by this possibility. Truly, the thought is driving my concentration, focus, and I am pursuing the possibility ferociously. It seems nothing else matters at the moment. Of course, this can be a good or bad force, depending on what you ponder on. No wonder we are encouraged over and over again to think good thoughts about others and ourselves. You may need to reconsider some of the things you thought were impossible. The power of positive thinking and dominating thoughts can give you another perspective to explore your world of possibilities.
How do you train your eye to see what you are looking for
1. Identify what you are looking for
It may not sound logical, but the truth is, not everyone knows exactly what they want or are looking for in life. You need description, details of what you are looking for. My family and I have a clear description and detail of what we are looking for. This has given our search purpose, focus, and direction. If you don’t know what you are looking for, anything can be what you want. Many have this outlook to avoid repeated disappointment and broken promises. As much as this may be a short term approach to deal with setbacks, I would not advise this approach long term, as it could rob you of the possibility of having what you actually want from life.
2. Learn more about what you are looking for
Having the description and details of what you want should naturally lead you to investigate further about what you want. Your discovery will unfold possibly what you need to do and the person you need to be. This may include skill-set upscale, being prudent with little resources at your disposal, being a better version of who you are today.
3. Identify possible locations and position yourself
Most successes and breakthroughs in life are a result of being in the right place at the right time with the right skills. I have seen this play out over and over again in the workplace. Knowing details about what you want will help to position yourself for the opportunity. Positioning is about being ready. This can take months. For some, it can be years. Being ready is the purpose and benefit of the wait. Preparation is proof of desire and determination. Be ready for what you are looking for, be the person to enjoy the benefits that what you are looking for can offer.
“Positioning is about being ready”
The bad news however …
There is always a perceived happiness we believe we will derive or get when we finally achieve or get what we are actively pursuing or have been waiting for all this time, be it a new job, relationship, or house. To a large extent, this is true. The only down side is, the happiness or sense of satisfaction is short-lived. Many factors, in and out of our control, contribute to the short effect of our achievement. Can you remember when you landed your dream job? What happened 6-12 months afterwards? Let me share a secret with you:
True and lasting happiness does not depend or rely on anything tangible in life, because it can be taken away.
The real source of lasting happiness are the intangibles of life. Things we cannot hold, touch, yet feel the effect. Like Ikea’s recent TV advert, ‘Enjoy the little things in life – maybe they are really the big things.‘
Final word
Are you struggling with identifying what you want out of life? Or are you weary because what you are looking for is taking longer than you anticipated? Why not take the next step and contact me via the form below. I can help and support you through this process. You are not alone, I can walk the miles with you in confidence.
How To Train Your Eyes To See What You Are Looking For June 27th, 2016Wole Sosanya
Tagged: Focus, Positioning, Power of Positive Thinking, Proof of Desire, Train Your Eyes, What We See
