I was listening to a preacher recently that made a profound statement about each of the stages in life; he said,
“Every season in life has its beauty and burden and it’s all contingent upon your perspective.”
It’s important to appreciate each stage and enjoy it while it last. Singlehood, in many cultures is seen as bad thing, a taboo and if you are not married when you are expected to, you may be subjected to many questions or unfriendly comments.
There is a secret some married people will not want you to know. What you see or perceive about their relationship and marriage is a front, a lie. Some are miserable and looking for an opportunity to opt out. Most problems in marriage can be traced back to courtship.
Before you accept the proposal of marriage from anyone, please consider the following;
1. Marriage may not make you happy. Never accept a proposal for that sole reason. If you are not happy as a single man or lady, marriage will compound your misery
2. The best of what you can get in marriage is what you are seeing while courting/dating. If you are not comfortable or pleased with what you see now, It might be worth breaking such a relationship. If the best is worse now…the worse will be disastrous later.
3. Never base your decision on physical or tangible things; things that can change with time. Look beyond what you can’t see. I married my wife because of her simplicity, gentle spirit and desire to make a difference. All other things are secondary.
4. If you are abused in any form while dating/courting, exit before you get trapped in everlasting abuse. True love does not abuse! Love is not blind, you choose to go blind. If you go ahead with the marriage or relationship, you are about to get much more, double your experience while dating.
5. Marriage is designed for life not for a trial. Its not designed to check out to another if it does not work out. Marriage can be one of the best or worst things that can happen to you. It’s all dependent on your choice. Marriage decisions should be made with all sense of seriousness and responsibility.
6. Make sure you see him or her in every situation or season. See how they deal with challenging seasons.
