1. No family/relationship is perfect. Run from any person that tells you their family/relationship is perfect. Its all a front to keep you from the truth!
2. Stop trying to change each other; rather compliment each other. Only God can change anyone. Appreciate and value your differences. Your backgrounds and upbringing are totally different.
3. Assumption is the least of all forms of knowledge. Never assume anything, have the courage to always ask and seek clarification. Most times, your assumptions are not totally accurate. What you see or hear may not be what it is
4. Never lose your friendship in your marriage. When you start to lose spice or spark begins to die in the marriage, your friendship with each other will sustain you. He/she may not be lovable sometimes
5. Don’t join the actors playing husband and wife. Bring back those lovely stuff you used to do while dating or newly married. Dating your spouse after you are married will prevent you from settling for normal. Normal sucks!
6. You need to understand that you are a team, same team to achieve same goal! Stop working against or blaming each other. Team members have different roles and responsibilities but all contribute positively to achieve same goal! A good team member covers up for a less effective member. It’s not about the individual, but the team. You are not in competition but in complement.
7. You will experience different seasons in your marriage. If you give up in the winter season, you will not see the beautiful spring season. Your love, loyalty, understanding and faithfulness will be tested. This is the real deal. This is where many throw in the towel.
8. Every relationship needs a hero. The hero fights for his/her love, clears up any mess. The hero is not the strongest but the most mature. Every failed marriage had the opportunity to succeed but no one was willing to take the hero’s responsibilities
9. There is no formula for success in marriage. You just need to discover what works for you and work it!
10. Because your opinion or suggestion was not accepted does not mean you were rejected. Argument or disagreement with your spouse does not mean they don’t love you! You disagree to agree
11. Stop majoring on the minors! Focus on what is important, the majors of the relationship.
12. Communication is the blood of the marriage. Take it away and the marriage begins to die a slow death. No matter how busy you are, (we can be truly busy) create time to reconnect. Very important!
13. You have no business being with someone you can’t respect and honour. Treat each other with respect and honour.
14. Never let one of your effective tools for great relationship go blunt. Creativity, skill and openness are required to make it sharp constantly on both edges. Oh, the tool is sex
15. No offence is unforgivable! Your spouse deserves a gift of forgiveness. You are not doing it for them but for you.
